How can I manage my anger? What can I do to overcome a temper problem?
We need to realize that anger itself is not wrong and being angry is not always a sin. Galatians 5:19-21a, which is part of the list of the “works of the flesh” we are to overcome, mentions “outbursts of wrath.” By contrast, verse 23 mentions the spiritual fruit of “self-control.” Ephesians 4:26-27 adds a few more pieces to the puzzle: “‘Be angry, and do not sin': do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil.”
19 Now the works of the flesh are evident: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, 20 idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, 21 envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these.
26 Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, 27 and give no opportunity to the devil.
Galatians 5: 21b-23 - 21b I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. 22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law.
What Makes You Angry? Ask yourself.
Three Faces of Anger
1) Explosive and blowing up;
2) Stewing, brewing, or silent indignation; and
3) Irritability, exasperation or embitterment.
Warning: Silent anger is just as offensive to God as explosive anger.
How do you express your anger?
HOW CAN WE FIGHT THIS KIND OF SIN?
It affects our ability to think reasonably and rationally. This is sometimes our common struggle (1 Corinthians 10:13). But GOD, in his grace, mercy, kindness, patience, and love has made us alive through the death, burial, and resurrection of his Son, Jesus Christ (Ephesians 2:4–9).
1 Corinthians 10:13 13 No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.
Ephesians 2:4–9 4 But God, being rich in mercy, because of the great love with which he loved us, 5 even when we were dead in our trespasses, made us alive together with Christ—by grace you have been saved— 6 and raised us up with him and seated us with him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, 7 so that in the coming ages he might show the immeasurable riches of his grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus.
Some effective things that all Christians need to do in order to be able to overcome the life-dominating sin of anger.
1. Pray to God instantly when you find yourself tempted—before you actually sin;
2. Pray regularly and at length at least once every day, in order to maintain a relationship with your heavenly Father;
3. Study the Bible every day to learn and be reminded of His will; and
4. Meditate often, focusing your thoughts on this specific subject of anger for several minutes, thinking about when you have lost your temper and picturing yourself doing better at anger management.
Anger Must Be Surrendered: The only way out is to surrender your anger to God. Do not control or manage it in your flesh. Let the Spirit move you to action or bring you to brokenness. God is the judge, not you or me (James 4:11–12).
Are you ready to step down from the throne of your mini judgment seat and allow God to be God?
Remember, “vengeance is mine,” says the Lord (Romans 12:18–21).
Are you ready to humble yourself in your broken state and surrender your sinful anger to God?
Know that He will give you grace in your time of need (Isaiah 66:2b; 2 Chronicles 16:9; James 4:6).
So, if you are ready, repent, ask God and those you have offended to forgive you, and walk in victory over the sinful anger that’s held you captive for so long.
Being angry to the point of sin comes naturally to us, but God offers help in our anger management struggle.